Monday, October 10, 2016
Being Friendly Out Soul-winning
“Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ's stead, be ye reconciled to God.” 2 Corinthians 5:20
The number one thing that I see people doing wrong out soul winning is that they are being unfriendly. I find myself doing a mental face palm when I am out with a soul winner who is coming off as gruff and business-like. We need to remember that we are ambassadors for Christ, and being extra friendly will help overcome the fact that we are uninvited guests at someone else’s home.
I always start with a big smile when the person first answers the door. When you smile at someone, they usually smile back, and this gets things off to a good start. After exchanging smiles with someone they are far less likely to be rude to you.
The other way I try to keep things friendly is that I avoid “striving” or arguing with people. The Bible teaches that we are to be meek and gentle when instructing people who are unsaved or perhaps just mistaken about something. The best way to prevent getting into an unnecessary argument is to “avoid foolish questions.”
I avoid answering a weird question unless it is directly related to salvation. I’ll tell the person that “we can come back to that,” and then I’ll politely get back to the gospel presentation. Don’t let pride take over and get sucked into an unfruitful argument. Stay focused on the goal, which is getting people saved.
“And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,” 2 Timothy 2:24
“But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.” Titus 3:9
“Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.” Proverbs 13:10
“For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified.” 1 Corinthians 2:2
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24
“Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:” 1 Peter 3:8
Good social skills may take a little practice but loving others more will help put you in the right mindset. Start with a big smile, and be careful not to come across as abrasive or cold. Remember that you are bringing good news and that you will achieve better results by being friendly.
Here is a sermon on Soul Winning Dos and Don’ts.