The Wife's Role as a Helper

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18

The physical relationship is crucial in a marriage. When a couple goes too long without being intimate, things can become awkward, and they can end up going even longer. Occasionally a husband will be guilty of depriving his wife in this area, but more often than not, it is the wife that is the gatekeeper when it comes to intimacy. Although she shouldn’t approach being with her husband as a duty, a wise woman will help her husband avoid temptation by being available to meet his needs.

“Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” - 1 Corinthians 7:5

A husband obviously needs his wife for companionship, but he also needs her help in other areas. One of the primary ways a wife helps her husband other than the relationship aspect of the marriage is by cooking, cleaning, and caring for the children while he is at work. Domestic chores can seem mundane, but a lady might find motivation in realizing how much these tasks are helping her husband.

“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” Proverbs 31:8

Being trustworthy with the finances is also an important way a wife should help her husband. This could be by just controlling her spending and finding the deals on food and clothing, or it could also include working on an endeavor from home while still taking care of the needs of her family.

“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” Proverbs 31:11

A common complaint from wives is that their husbands don’t help them enough around the house. Helping your wife around the house is great, but if you are doing your part by providing for your family financially, don’t feel guilty if your wife does most of the cooking and cleaning. Every couple is different in exactly how they divide the various responsibilities, but a woman should remember that her primary role in the marriage is to help her husband, and not vice versa.

“For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” - 1 Corinthians11:8-9

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