Sunday, March 24, 2013

Writing to Your Wife - Part 1

In today's world of cellphones and computers, writing letters has become a lost art. However, writing letters can be a very effective way to communicate with your wife. Like you, I live a very busy lifestyle and don't have time to sit down and write long letters to my friends, family, church members, or other loved ones. Nevertheless, I do take time out to write long letters to my wife because it is time well spent. In the long run, you will spend more time trying to fix problems in your marriage than it would have taken you to prevent them in the first place by putting forth the effort necessary to have a good marriage. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.

Why write a letter when you can just speak to her face to face or pick up the phone and call her? There is something different about writing a letter. First of all, it shows that you have put a lot of thought and effort into what you are saying. It will also get her attention because it is something out of the ordinary. Writing a letter can also allow you to express things that you may not feel comfortable expressing face to face. Sometimes a letter can be even more personal and intimate than communicating in person.

"How about an email?" Theoretically, you could accomplish the same thing by sending an email, and if you are able to do so effectively, then great. The problem with email is that when we write an email, we usually tend to make it shorter and more casual. Writing a "letter" is different than just writing a "note." In order to write an effective letter to your wife, you will need to write more than just a few lines, and you will need to include serious content.

The following few posts will contain many practical tips and ideas on writing to your wife. Although this will be geared toward men, the same principles will apply to a wife writing to her husband. Everyone likes receiving a letter whether they be male or female!

To be continued...

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Awww, pastor Anderson, you are such a romantic husband!!! I would have never thought that.

KristinaL Allen said...

Great idea. My husband is very lousy at saying nice things to me, but good at writing nice things. We've been married 29 yrs and my love language is words of affirmation, which he NEVER speaks. I'll forward this article on to him. Thank you. It's a great solution.

Anonymous said...

My husband is a letter writer and I absolutely love it! They don't come around as often now but that's ok, I know he's very busy working and doesn't have a lot of free time. If anything when I do get them they mean so much more. I actually have an accumulation of them from the past five years and I really enjoy re reading them.